TMS #030: The Comparison Game

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The Comparison Game is a game that many people play, but only some win. It's like any other game: there are rules and strategies that you can use to your advantage.

In this article, I'll talk about changing your point of view if you want to be a powerful player in the comparison game.

The Comparison Game

The comparison game is a psychological game that anyone can play. It's a sport where you try to win by comparing yourself to others and feeling better than them.

The goal of this game is for everyone to feel like they're losing at some point or another. If no one loses, then everyone wins! And what fun would that be?

So how do we win at life? By changing our perspective, we can feel good about ourselves. This is independent of what others do, say or achieve (or fail to achieve) in their lives.

Winners and Losers

The game is simple in the world of winners and losers: you either win or lose. Yet, you have a skewed perspective on this game if you are like most people. You might think that winners are better at everything. And that losers aren't as good as everyone else in some way (or in many ways).

But what if I told you that this isn't true? What if there was a way to change your mindset so that you no longer saw yourself as a loser or winner in the comparison game of life (a game where only one wins)? You will see yourself as an individual with unique abilities and perspectives. What if I showed you how this new way of thinking could help improve all areas of your life? From your relationships to your success at work?

Reframing Your Perspective

When you reframe your perspective, you'll be able to see the good in each situation and make the best of it. If a friend cancels lunch because something came up at work, think how lucky they are to have such a great job and what an opportunity this is for them! Or if someone doesn't invite you to their birthday party because they don't want a big crowd (or maybe even just one specific person). Remember that this person cares enough about your friendship not to want anything to ruin their special day because they feel uncomfortable.

These simple shifts in thinking can help us feel better about ourselves and our situations and even improve our health! Studies show that positive thoughts promote healthier behaviors. Such as exercising, eating a nutritious diet, and getting plenty of sleep. In doing so, they lower stress levels by lowering blood pressure and cortisol production. This, in turn, helps reduce inflammation throughout the body.

You can also try focusing on what you're grateful for by thinking about all the good things in your life. When you're feeling down, take a minute to write down five things you're grateful for. Or even one thing if that's all you can think of right now. This will make you feel better because it will remind you that your life is good in other ways besides the problem you are having right now.

Some Examples

Let's take a look at some more examples of how to reframe your perspective.

The first example is of someone who is not winning the game. This person has an unhealthy relationship with food and body image. She feels like she can never be good enough or skinny enough. She compares herself to other women, who have more money/shoes/clothes than her, as well as thinner bodies than hers. This makes her feel bad about herself and not good enough because she can't compete with them in any way except for money, which isn't enough anyway. She also spends a lot of time comparing herself to celebrities who have perfect bodies, but aren't necessarily happy with themselves either. They're just better at hiding it!

In contrast, let's look at another person who is winning this comparison game. We'll call him "Winning Guy." Winning Guy isn't concerned with whether his friends have more money or nicer clothes than him. He knows that being happy with yourself is more important than anything else in life (and if someone else has something nice but they aren't happy then why would you want it?). Winning Guy knows that no matter what happens in life or how much success someone else has, there will always be someone who has done better than him. And this doesn't mean anything unless we let it affect our happiness levels!

You can win the comparison game

You can win the comparison game. It's a journey, not a destination. You have to be willing to keep going and learn from your mistakes.

You will get knocked down, but you will get up again. You will fail sometimes, but that doesn't mean you're a failure--it means that you are human! We all make mistakes and stumble along the way. What matters is how we deal with those setbacks. And whether they stop us from moving forward toward our goals in life.

The next time someone judges you for something that isn't their business, don't take it personally. Remember: "Comparison is the thief of joy!"

The next time you feel down, remember that this is only temporary. Think about how far you've come and all the progress you've made. This can be difficult when you're in the middle of a bad patch, but it will help keep things in perspective.

Conclusion

In the end, it's all about perspective. You can win in life if you find the right mindset to see your challenges and opportunities as they arise. By changing how you see things, you can change your life for the better!

Keep Evolving,

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TL;DR

The Comparison Game: How to Win at Life by Reframing Your Perspective

1. Reframe your perspective

2. Winners & losers are subjective

3. Practice gratitude & positivity

4. Comparison game is a journey

5. Mistakes are part of growth

6. Don't take things personally

7. It's all about perspective

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