TMS #012: 10 Effective NLP Techniques To Master Your Confidence

We’ve all felt the pain of uncertainty. You wonder whether you have what it takes to succeed in life and business. I know how that feels.

Fortunately, I have a toolkit full of NLP techniques to help you boost your confidence.

Hi there👋.

Do you ever feel like you’re just not good enough? Like everyone else around you is better than you are?

Do you ever feel like your dreams are impossible and that no matter how hard you try, it’s not going to happen for you?

Don’t worry—that’s totally normal!

Some people never recover from this kind of negative self-talk, but today I’m going to teach you 10 different strategies for overcoming this kind of negativity and getting back on track with your goals.

1. Mistakes Are Normal

A man is steering a ship and gets a little off course. He corrects the course because he knows this kind of mistake. He arrives at the port without any stress.Get used to this way of looking at things in your everyday life. Mistakes don’t have to bring you to your knees. Every mistake brings you closer to the final solution. Thomas Edison used many failures to develop the first light bulb.Remember: there is only feedback on paths, not failure.

2. Separate Behavior From Thinking

What succeeds or fails has no relevance to who you are.

People function on several different logical levels. These describe values, skills, and environment. You may have impressive skills but be in the wrong environment.

An example is factory worker Paul Potts, whose operatic singing talent was first understood via British Super Talent and he became famous as a result.

Separate public opinion about your behavior from what is really inside you. Try yourself in a different environment.

3. Perceive Through Other Filters

See yourself from another person’s point of view. Surely some people have positive things to say about you. Ask some close people what they find strong and good about you. Let them give you constructive criticism.

So you can see advantages and improve yourself to get more self-confidence.

4. Learn From A Model

The reason for lower self-confidence can be that others do certain things better. See what people are better at. Sometimes it is small things with significant impact. Start adopting behaviors and strategies from the model.

Combine these with your own assets.

5. Strengthen Your Resources

Resources are your skills and capacities. Check out the following exercise:

1. Think about a day when things went well for you.

2. Think only about the positive things and write them down.

3. Think about your feelings as you do so.

4. Set an anchor: Choose a unique and distinctive gesture. An example is a particular finger movement.

5. In this, you anchor all positive feelings of the day.

6. Use the motion whenever you need success.

Practice this several times.

Little by little, self-confidence increases as you set your anchor.

6. Know Your Preferred Sense

Answer these 3 questions:

1. Do you prefer to make decisions based on what you see, hear, or feel?

2. Is a bad day most likely to show on you based on your appearance, voice, or skill at activities?

3. When you are irritated by someone, does their appearance, voice, or behavior provoke you the most?

You’ll notice which sense reacts the strongest. Use this sense for your self-confidence the most when achieving your goals. Also, trust your gut more when this strong sense is guiding you.It is the key to success and resulting self-confidence.

7. Ban The Word "But"

The word “but” is especially powerful in a negative sense.

“But”, “unfortunately” and similar negative statements are warning signals to the head. Avoid them in both conversations and thoughts. Instead, use “and” to combine two things. This treats your self-confidence more gently.

8. What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger

Understand mistakes as usual and learn from them. Develop a healthy mindset that your setbacks make you stronger: “Now more than ever”. Letting go is sometimes necessary, but not after the first few disappointments. Don’t give up short of the goal. This strengthens you and your self-confidence.

9. Destroy What Gnaws At Your Self-confidence

Think of things that are weighing on you or your self-confidence. Write them down on a piece of paper or give them a material form. Choose a ritual to destroy these things: Burn the note or throw it in a trash can.

Act it out with full conviction.

10. Design Your Self-confidence

Think of a time when you were particularly self-confident.

What did you feel, think and hear at that time? Go deep inside yourself and feel where in your body the feeling of self-confidence can be located. Often this is at a certain place in the body.

Focus on the emotions and location in your body. Try to feel everything more intensely. Practice shifting everything to the self-aware focus of the body and the thought world. You can then activate positive emotions in bad situations by paying more attention to this focus.

Thanks for reading. See you next week.

Cheers,

Christian

Remember: You’re just one smile away!

TL;DR:

1. Mistakes Are Normal

2. Separate Behavior From Thinking

3. Perceive Through Other Filters

4. Learn From A Model

5. Strengthen Your Resources

6. Know Your Preferred Sense

7. Ban The Word “But”

8. What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger

9. Destroy What Gnaws At Your Self-confidence

10. Design Your Self-confidence

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